Has it been 5 months already since I wrote my last post? Time flew by and my family is almost adjusted to our new normal – life with three kids.
Today I wanted to share with you my new project that I originally planned on starting in April. I overestimated my multi-tasking abilities. I often do.
But before I tell you about the project, let me tell you how it was born. Maybe it will help you if you are trying to figure out your thing.
My main criteria for this project was – I wanted to blend my life and my work. What do I mean by that?
It’s not about my passions anymore. The whole passion obsession is slowly dying and seems like more and more people are realizing that simply figuring out what you are passionate about and starting a business doing it – is not enough.
No, don’t get me wrong, passions are important. Very much so! But figuring out who you are and finding the work that will connect who you are with what you do is a little bit different.
Let me explain.
There are lots of things I am passionate about but not all of them are part of my life. Not all of them represent me at this point in my life.
When you blend your life and your work you literally start selling what you are, right here, right now. Nothing extra.
Here is an example.
If I was passionate about healthy cooking (which I am) and wanted to turn that passion into a business, I could learn more recipes, cook meals specifically for showing off my skills, get new camera to take pictures of the dishes I make, maybe take classes to learn more recipes, techniques, etc.
I would enjoy doing it. It’s my passion after all. But it would require extra work. Because even though I am passionate about healthy cooking, I don’t come up with new recipes every day nor do I plan on taking any cooking classes any time soon.
When I am blending my life and my work, I don’t learn anything specifically for the sake of selling it later. I don’t do classes, new recipes, new camera etc.
Unless! Unless I wanted to take those classes and learn those recipes for myself. Unless I would do it whether I needed it for my business or not.
You see, the difference is – I live my life and share it, as opposed to – I do something worth sharing and share it.
When you blend your life and your work – the assumption is – what you are already and what you do already on a daily basis – is valuable and worth sharing. Nothing extra needed.
Please don’t confuse it with becoming a diarist. No, it doesn’t mean you have to start sharing EVERY SINGLE THING you are doing.
You have to find one thing or maybe a couple of things that you do every day that have lots of meaning for you. They are not just your routines, they are a part of who you are on a deeper level.
It might be fostering creativity in your children because you know how important it is for them, or gardening because you believe if everyone had a garden – it would change the world, or hiking because nature us your temple or always making time for your friends no matter how busy life gets.
What is a part of who you are? What is so important to you that you would really really regret not being able to do? What is on top of your priority list? It might be one thing or two things or more.
And no, they are not necessarily what you would call passions. They are just something you do – NO MATTER WHAT.
Now ask yourself why those are so important to you? Do you believe that if other people started doing what you are doing – it could help them in any way?
And here is the real test – do you believe that if many people were doing what you are doing – our world would become a better place to live in?
Yes, I do believe that if we look closer at what we do every day, we will find something that could change the world.
So I had to look at myself and ask myself those questions.
And that might be one of the hardest things to do. When you are in the center of it, it’s hard to see what you are in the center of. It’s so much easier for me to do it for others.
Most of what I do these days revolves around my kids, of course. But what about my kids? What specifically? No, I don’t want to become a mommy blogger and share baby pictures. (Nothing wrong with mommy bloggers.)
After thinking about it for awhile, I saw two things.
First – parenting is a spiritual practice for me. I’ve been saying it for awhile – I don’t need to go to church, I don’t need to meditate or go to spiritual retreats – I have my kids. Parenting is a catalyst for personal growth for me.
As a result here is what I wrote on the about page for my new website –
“I want to re-imagine the way I parent my children. I want to re-imagine the way we, as a society, parent our children.
I want to change the belief that is so ingrained in me that I am an almighty, all-knowing parent whose job is to raise properly socialized and educated human being filling them up with as much knowledge and good manners as I can. Because that’s not my job.
My children and I are partners. They are with me for a short period of time to help me grow and evolve. To teach me the lessons I need to learn. I do that for them as well.
I don’t own them. They are not here to make me proud or to show what a great mother I am. They are here to help me uncover my truth. To help me get back to myself. To help me let go what I need to let go.
That’s what conscious parenting is all about.”
That’s what I do every day. I try to parent consciously. I learn the lessons. I change myself. I grow. I evolve through my relationships with my kids.
Some days I suck at it really bad. Some days I fail hard. Sometimes it takes me months and years to learn the lesson.
But I don’t give up. I try again and again.
My children are my biggest teachers in life.
I truly want to help myself and our society to change the way we view parenting. I want it to be a given, something that everyone knows and everyone does. I want new parents who are having a baby to anticipate all the lessons they’ll learn through parenting that child.
This one change in our parenting, this one change in our collective consciousness, could help humanity move up a level. I believe so.
Conscious parenting – that is my number one thing that is a part of who I am.
And another very important thing regarding my kids that keeps me up at night is I want them to have access to a very different education than is available right now. I want them to go to school that doesn’t exist yet. I want it so bad. As a result I tried alternative schools, I tried homeschooling, I research schools all the time hoping to find the one.
I believe with a passion that if we change our education system we could change the world.
Those are two things that are part of my everyday – conscious parenting and childhood education. They are a part of who I am right now. Do I have other parts that are important? You bet. I hope to explore them here.
So, my new project? Check it out – New Generation Project. A website dedicated to conscious parenting and changing our education system. Please like it on Facebook if have kids and resonate. Thank you!